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Open communication is key in situations like this. Express your feelings to your boyfriend in a calm and honest manner. Let him know that you appreciate his desire for intimacy but that there are times when you may not be in the mood. Encourage a conversation about boundaries and establish a mutual understanding regarding each other's comfort levels.

Consider introducing a signal or a gentle phrase that communicates when you're not in the mood without causing discomfort. This approach fosters a respectful environment for both partners. Additionally, exploring together the moments or activities that enhance your mood for intimacy can strengthen your connection and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you. Remember, maintaining open dialogue allows for a deeper understanding and paves the way for a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Share your feelings openly, emphasizing that you want to deepen your connection by discussing your intimate experiences. Gently explain the physiological differences between squirting and urination, highlighting that squirting is a natural part of some women's sexual responses.

Consider suggesting educational resources or articles on female anatomy and sexual health to provide additional context. My recommendation is Sheri Winston's "Woman's Anatomy of Arousal."

Encourage your husband to explore these materials together to enhance understanding.

Ensure that your conversation remains open, non-confrontational, and focused on mutual growth and connection. Remember, patience and empathy play pivotal roles in fostering a deeper understanding of each other's experiences and promoting a more harmonious intimate relationship.

Open communication is vital for improving intimacy in a relationship. Instead of focusing on the negative, consider candidly conversing with your boyfriend about your desires and preferences. Express your feelings with kindness, emphasizing your wish for a more fulfilling and connected physical experience.

Guide him gently by sharing what feels good and what you enjoy during intimate moments. Positive reinforcement and encouragement can go a long way in building confidence and enhancing his understanding of your needs.

Consider exploring new activities together to deepen your connection. Attend workshops, read books, or watch educational materials on intimacy as a couple. This shared exploration can not only improve your physical connection but also strengthen your emotional bond.

Remember, fostering an environment of open communication and collaboration can lead to a more satisfying and harmonious intimate relationship. Approach the conversation with empathy and a shared commitment to mutual growth and pleasure.

In the realm of somatic and tantric approaches, shifting the focus from a goal-oriented perspective to one that values the holistic experience of intimacy is essential. Rather than placing emphasis on a rapid climax, consider exploring a more mindful and connected journey together.

Communicate openly with your partner about his medication and its potential impact on sexual experiences. Understanding and compassion are fundamental aspects of somatic awareness. Encourage him to share any sensations or emotions he may be experiencing, fostering a deeper connection between both of you.

Incorporate tantric practices that prioritize mindfulness and the sacred nature of intimacy. Experiment with conscious breathing techniques to enhance both your awareness and pleasure. By immersing yourselves in the present moment, you may discover a more profound connection that transcends a specific timeframe.

Explore erogenous zones, engage in sensual massages, and celebrate the entire spectrum of pleasure beyond penetration. This shift in perspective can lead to a more fulfilling experience for both partners.

Remember that individual responses to sexual stimuli vary, and external factors such as medications can indeed influence one's sexual experience. It's crucial to approach this with patience, understanding, and a willingness to explore new avenues of pleasure together. Open communication, somatic awareness, and the incorporation of tantric principles can contribute to a more enriching and connected sexual journey.

 My favorite way to communicate about sex is right after sex while you are still lying in each other's arms or next to each other.  I call this "Monday Morning Quarterback."  It's sort of like an instant replay of what just transpired.

In this scenario, you communicate to your partner what you enjoyed the most and use detail when talking about it.  I encourage you to make only positive statements about your experience.  During this time you can sneak in requests, as it will feel more natural since you are already on the topic.  So you might say something like, "I really enjoyed when you put a little pressure on my chest with your hand.....I wonder what it would feel like if you put your hand on my throat the next time?"  or "I loved it when you took off my clothes before we got onto the bed, how would you feel about pushing me onto the bed next time?"  Phrasing your request as an inquiry or a curiosity takes the fear out of asking for what you want AND it allows your partner to take part in this decision so it feels like you both came up with it.

First, I wouldn't use the word normal....because what is Normal and what is that in comparison to?  There is a wide range when it comes to penis size.  On average, an erect penis measures around 5.16 inches in length from the base to the tip (this can look shorter if you have more fatty tissue in the pubic region) and the circumference is about 4.5 inches.  

Ultimately, what matters most in sexual satisfaction is communication, mutual consent, and a strong emotional connection between partners.  There are other ways to focus on pleasure if you feel that the size of your penis isn't getting the job done.  I would suggest finding out what your partner enjoys the most and focus on that.